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Please read the author's comments after reading this. This was meant to be an equal rights piece, not just women's.


Dear Boys,

I might not be hot.
I might not be skinny.
Hell, I might not even be the girl your father wants you to bring home.

But that's not my problem.
It's not my desire to be your slut, your whore.
I know I'm not the girl the team talks about in the locker room.
And don't you for a second think I wish I was.

I wear what I want, do what I want, go and say what I want because I'm me.
I'm me for myself, I'm me for God and I'm me for life.
Nothing you say or do will ever change that.

And if you're reading this and you're one of the boys that I find myself lucky enough to call a friend?
Don't hurt me.
Don't give me a reason to believe that you're all the same, that the good I see in you is fake and exists nowhere in your gender.

Don't treat me with less because I have more.

Attraction is one thing, but don't try to tear down my beauty because I don't suit what you'd like in bed.


My request is that you be good to me as I try to be to you.

Be the friend I need.
Be the rock I lean on.
Be the brother I come to.
Be a man.
I don't know if this will be a series of letters to no one, but I don't care. I love how it came out and no one is going to make me feel otherwise.

I've been really cheated by two male friends in my life, and I wish I hadn't been. It makes it so hard to trust where it shouldn't be, and I essentially just wrote this to say to that person that although they messed it up with me- they can always try to be better next time... as well as to the general male population that it's fine and dandy to have attractions....
Just don't be a jerk. lol

[Note as of 6/30/11:] It's a mindset that we all create and feed into, men and women. This submission isn't really about men being negative.
It's about the way we think we all have to behave. Boys AND Girls.

[Note as of 6/26/11]: Thank you all so much for your comments and favorites, I honestly didn't think this was going to get much attention at all.

This came out of a really ugly situation and it's become such a beautiful thing.


I thought, at first, that people would see this and pass it off as just another 'women's rights' submission, but I feel like a lot people saw it the way I wanted it to be seen- not just as women's rights, but as male rights too.
No boy should feel like he HAS to be jerk to be a normal boy.
No boy should feel like he HAS to be interested in losing his virginity to the nearest size 00 to be a normal boy. (no disrespect to any size 00s.)
No boy should feel like he HAS to be anything more than a decent human being to be a normal boy.


And you've all been so supportive, I deeply appreciate it.

[note note note]
I had a comment from a boy who I think took this the wrong way, as some sort of stab at the male gender. I wanted to say that I didn't just slam the door on this person after they said something.
The person this stemmed from DID indeed have the chance to explain himself. In fact, it was WHEN he explained himself that he said things like
1. You're ugly in the eyes of society.
2. NO ONE will ever think you are pretty.
3. *insert friends here* Are pretty, but you aren't.

So it isn't so much that I'm saying what I feel here and not telling them. It's that they have HEARD this and do not care.
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:iconkingmaxy:
kingmaxy Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2014  Student Writer
hello friend of mine
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:iconchaseyoungsgirl:
ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014
oh hi lol have we met outside of DA?
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:iconkingmaxy:
kingmaxy Featured By Owner Feb 21, 2014  Student Writer
perhaps. i don't know. do you wanna collaberate.
and did I spell that right.
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ChibiTigerheart Featured By Owner Sep 14, 2013  Student Artisan Crafter
I love this <3
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Kalcaraz Featured By Owner Apr 27, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
THIS IS BEAUTIFUL :D I like this it's just like gosh it's AWESOME that how I feel about the guys at my school
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ProtodudeZero Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2013
I salute you my friend
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jesus33chick Featured By Owner May 29, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Well said!
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viciousjaws Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2011
BE A MAN. DO THE RIGHT THING.
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Bugger--0ff Featured By Owner Sep 13, 2011
This. This is RIGHTEOUS.
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:iconchaseyoungsgirl:
ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Sep 13, 2011
Haha, thank you. <3
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TsukiyomiLuna Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2011
I wear what I want, do what I want, go and say what I want because I'm me.
I'm me for myself, I'm me for God and I'm me for life.
Nothing you say or do will ever change that.


Those lines couldn't be truer in my eyes. : ) I'll always have respect for myself, and if some boys can't seem to appreciate that, then they aren't worth my time. Not all boys are like that, thankfully. Not all men.

Thank you, for writing this. <3

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:iconchaseyoungsgirl:
ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2011
I'm glad you liked it. :heart:
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JackyRamone Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2011  Student Photographer
well said!
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AureusIgnis Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
I feel this pressure described here every day. How beautiful your words are. I commend you on a job well done.
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:iconchaseyoungsgirl:
ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
Though I'm sorry you have to feel this pressure, I'm glad you felt a connection. :heart:
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AureusIgnis Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2011
<3 thank you for writing it.
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Carenza Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
It's sad that we are forced into these corners that we can only call out from.
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:iconchaseyoungsgirl:
ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
But it's good that we can see these corners and know there's room for improvement. That's how progress is made. :)
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:iconcarenza:
Carenza Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
Social Progress is only made by those who have the strength govern, to stand above, and it's not always a good progress. By ourselves, we can only really inflict change, hopefully a positive one.
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011
Agreed.
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Markus43 Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I have 2 daughters and one grandddaughter... I hope many things in their future but most of all that they would be ok wiith who they are ...


Well done
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Little-Mariko Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2011
:bulletblue: Somehow I thought this was going to be Mulan-related
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:iconchaseyoungsgirl:
ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2011
I've gotten that so many times, It's expected at this point. lol
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DuoMxl Featured By Owner Jul 16, 2011
Thank YOU!!! Even before reading the annotations... I would have translated the message regardless... but I liked the notes reminding people too...
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:iconchaseyoungsgirl:
ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jul 16, 2011
yeah, clarity is a big thing with me. lol

I'm glad you liked it!
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charlie925 Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2011
I can very much understand how you feel :) thankyou for saying it as it is
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Sarah-the-writer Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2011
Very interesting piece, and I def know how you feel!
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Gederoth Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2011  Professional Digital Artist
While I feel it's a good piece, I feel your comments explaining how it is both for males and females conflicts with the writing itself. If your comments have to spell out the point you're trying to illustrate, "Be a Man" should be rewritten. As it is, it does not communicate well your neutral point of view.

I mean no offense by this, it is good, but the point given and the point you're attempting to communicate are somewhat diluted.
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2011
No, I get you. And Yeah, I see the point.
I guess the comments were more to reassure people who felt offended that I meant no offense by it.

The letter is just a girl's point of view and pretty much a general request to have a good guy friend.

But my explanations are all sorts of things I myself feel and believe.
So I guess, while the way the piece was written sounded more one sided, it'd be impossible to really harp on the strings of the other side since it's written in the first person.

Thank you for telling me that though, I often hate feeling like I have to explain myself. It tends to take away from what I originally said or wrote.
But there were a few comments that made me feel as though I had to explain myself to avoid a collection of male commenters poking at me personally than at the piece that offended them.

It's good to know, however, that I'm not the only person who feels like over explaining something can mess it up.
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dark-shadows19 Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2011  Hobbyist Photographer
I couldn't agree more.
I've been through that too and honey it ain't pretty..
but no joke this was really incredible :) <3
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2011
:heart:
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FiskXPhantom Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2011  Student General Artist
Amen! Us :fella:s need to get it together! :roll:
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2011
Lol
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FiskXPhantom Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2011  Student General Artist
:giggle: :music: Girl, you run this motha! :music:
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i can agree that most men are what id like to say cruel to others and it really isn't cool
i believe that all women should be treated with only the up most respect
i also think that just about every guy needs to pull their heads out of their asses
i watch other guys treat women with disrespect and are always being jerks. it really dose need to stop
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2011
I agree, but I also think some of it is just as much a responsibility of women.
Some women do nothing but agree and feed into that mindset, creating boys AND girls who do this kind of thing.
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maestro252 Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
i can't be in more agreement with you in that "poem", your words are so strong and true, that i have nothing to say at all.
congratulations, because each woman of the world should think and be as you, i mean in their own way, not as men want them to be. you (women) have rights, but we have to understand that those rights are unnecessary because you're human beings and you deserve to be treated as that, no more, no less, ok.... maybe more!!!!....much more!!!
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
Lol. thank you.

Everyone deserves the same level of respect in essence.
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Fadoca Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011  Student Traditional Artist
thank you. Just.. thanks. :heart:
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
You're welcome. :heart:
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maestro252 Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
i saw this kind of poem, and i really got impressed, because it is really well written, and it really fits the description of men i've always dreamed of. i'm a guy, and i think women should not be seen as sexual objects, that they have rights, and besides that, they are human being just like us, who deserve to be treated as we want to be treated.
treat them well!!!!!, make them feel right, because some day when you'll need their help, you'll wish that you treated them as you should have.
lovely "poem", right feelings.
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
Thanks, I really like hearing a guy's opinion of this. It's just as much FOR you as it is TO other guys.
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superskyblue Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
I saw this on Deviantart's Tumblr. I started reading it and I loved it.
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
I'm glad you did. :3
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thermomine Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
well I'm a male and been married 21 years now, I found your letter while looking at some pictures and decided to read it.
I have to say that you sound like you have a beautiful heart and it sounds as if someone missed out on a wonderful person, and to the guy that said all that negative crap....."grow up"
(hugs) don't ever change.

Doug
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
Thanks, I really do appreciate that.
I hope you don't think that I think the entire male gender is that way, because I don't. I've gotten a couple comments from boys who think I just wanted to get up on a soapbox and rant.
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Mr-bananasham Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
I don't know who commented on here sayin such aweful things, but in reality it does seem that you are trying to state what is wrong with guys in general. Which is always a bad idea, because you will always get some hateful comments.
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ChaseYoungsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2011
Copy of what was said:

[Note as of 6/26/11]: Thank you all so much for your comments and favorites, I honestly didn't think this was going to get much attention at all.

This came out of a really ugly situation and it's become such a beautiful thing.


I thought, at first, that people would see this and pass it off as just another 'women's rights' submission, but I feel like a lot people saw it the way I wanted it to be seen- not just as women's rights, but as male rights too.
No boy should feel like he HAS to be jerk to be a normal boy.
No boy should feel like he HAS to be interested in losing his virginity to the nearest size 00 to be a normal boy. (no disrespect to any size 00s.)
No boy should feel like he HAS to be anything more than a decent human being to be a normal boy.
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